“Tea of Coffee?”, flight attendant asked me during my flight from Heathrow to New York. “Coffee”, I said and smiled. How could such a simple question be so meaningful? I was leaving behind the English culture with all its traditions, idiosyncrasies and love for tea. Plus, I prefer coffee anyway. Black. No Sugar. It’s my own version from James Bond’s “shaken not stirred”. While I did enjoy a vodka-martini during the farewell dinner, the English beverages, as well as their culture, werejust not my own. I did speak the language. But no matter how long I stayed in England, I could not ever become English. That’s why, ultimately, it felt so great to come back to the States. It’s where I belong. It’s where home is.
Speaking of home, I do wish I had more time to be in New York. I flew in at night, and had to leave the following afternoon. For once, I slept in my own bed and then it was time to move on to new adventures. When my parents asked me about Oxford, I think I gave them too harsh of a description. It’s so easy to focus on what’s different, what’s unorthodox, or just makes no sense. For 10 weeks, I tried to fit in at the most prestigious and among the most selective places on Earth. While my credentials told a respectable story of an American student studying abroad for one term, the task of trying to fit in is a difficult one. It’s easy to focus on the challenges and forget the rest. Th etruth is, I had a great time. It was not an easy decision to go, but without a doubt, it turned out to be the right one.
The last week at Oxford was terrific. As I mentioned I finished the work on Thursday night and I was flying to Monday, which left me with a bit of free time for my own enjoyment. I took a lot of pictures on Friday. They were filing a movie, right next to the Radcliffe Camera. It’s called The Golden Compass. The preview is already available online. I’m definitely going to see it when it comes out, just to watch a a few dozen extras run by Brasenose college in one of the shots. Didn’t see Nicole Kidman. On the bright side, I did talk to a few extras. They were all bratty kids convinced they would become big movie stars someday. “I’ve already been in six movies, with so and so”, they told me. I wasn’t so sure about their future fame, but I was convinced they would grow up to be complete assholes.
Friday night, we went out to Pink Giraffe, a Chinese all you can eat restaurant. This marked the beginning of overindulgence. The previous day, I had three cups of coffee while finishing up the paper. Then I ate way too much at the buffet. This was followed by too much alcohol back at the Stanford house. Afterwards, I smoked a $20 Cuban cigar. All of a sudden, all of those things hit me at the same time. It was pleasant, but undoubtedly unhealthy.
The next day I was going to see Phantom of the Opera at Her Majesty’s theatre in London. But I slept through my alarm. When I got up, I literally RAN down high street, barely catching the tube. Everything turned out to be great. I really enjoyed the performance. Then went to the infamous Regent Park. Throughout the day, there were formations of airplanes flying in the sky. I saw one circia WWII bomber. Still not sure what was going on. The way back to Oxford was rough, all the tubes were coming in full. I got about around 3 in the morning, just in time to say goodbye to a few people with early flights.
Sunday was more exploring of Oxford. Finally went up University Church. It was a gorgeous day, you could see for miles. Then checked the the Natural history museum. At night, said goodbye to my cousin. Packing was a pain, I waited until late night to start and did not finish until 5am. Then with a few hours of sleep, I got up, dropped off books at the public library, had my last meal at the Magdalen salad bar. It started pouring very heavily as I waited for the bus to the airport. 10 weeks ago, I came into this place, not knowing what to expect. I don’t usually become sentimental, but over the term, I got attached to the place, the architecture and the people. I came in to nothing, and yet at the end, I was leaving a lot behind.